Sacrament of Marriage & Marriage Preparation

Marriage Preparation

“The love of a man and a woman
is made holy in the sacrament of marriage
and becomes the mirror of God’s everlasting love.”
-Rite of Marriage

Before contacting the parish to set a wedding date please read our wedding policy

The engaged couple should contact the parish at least NINE MONTHS prior to the desired date of the wedding (and before setting an exact date!). Our wedding coordinator will get back to you and set your wedding date on our calendar after determining your eligibility to be married at St. Thomas Aquinas or St. John Church
and Student Center.

Alumni Chapel weddings will be wedding ceremonies only- we will not do full Mass at the chapel. A priest or Deacon may be assigned. 

Your marriage preparation consists of:

The couple will attend a WEDDING WORKSHOP with other couples to complete the FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication Understanding and Study) pre-marriage inventory and other required paperwork. You will also get an overview of the preparation process and hear from someone from our music department.
  Click here to register for a workshop.  Plan on attending a workshop at least 9 months before your wedding date

If you live locally following the workshop a mentor couple from the parish will be assigned to meet with the engaged couple 1 or 3 times to review the FOCCUS. We will work with couples who live outside of the state or in two different locations.

You will also receive information about the two seminars that the engaged couple should participate in:

For more information, about getting married either at St. Thomas Aquinas, St. John or the Alumni Chapel, please contact Denise in the office at St. John Church & Student Center at (517) 337-9778. You can also email